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What about your friends? #CantaveTalk


What about your friends?

Consider that you have a “crew” of people that you’ve been friends with for a very long time. You are very loyal to your friends and your friendships are extremely important to you. In fact, your friendships often times compete with your other relationships, your marriage if you’re married, or your relationship if you are in one. This even applies to single people as well. I’m not mad at you. You’re a great friend and you take friendship very seriously!

Let’s say, there are 6 of you in this group. There are a few people in this group of friends that are pretty content with where they are in their life. Their career, the money they are making, where they live, etc. They have no worries. They’re comfortable with their lives and happy, exactly where they are. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you are authentically happy that is.

On the flip side, there are a few people in this group, maybe you, where you aren’t so comfortable where you are in life right now. You all sit around and talk about money, relationships, career, etc. Same stuff. The same stuff you all have been talking about for years and no one has really made any strides in any of those areas. Or maybe some of you have made some progress, but you find they still aren’t happy and where they want to be.

This same group of individuals however, does what?

They spend the majority of their time talking and hanging with (DRUMROLL, please) THE SAME group of people. They do this because they are friends. They’ve been connected for a very long time! They love each others company, they have a lot in common, or do they? But does friendship truly supercede all? Are you that loyal of a friend that you would forego BREAKOUT growth in your life for the sake of being “loyal” to your crew?

Let me answer that question for you…

MOST people subscribe to a crowd or herd mentality for fear of being rejected by the consensus. In other words, if I breakout and have a massively successful 2015, how many people do you think are still going to be “friends” with me at the end of the year?

When you find yourself spending time in the company of the same people that you’ve always spent time with for years, having the same conversations, doing the same things, and basically living similar lives, you never grow.

You’re comfortable. So why would you want to get uncomfortable placing yourself around other individuals that are probably going to stretch you?

But, they’re your friends! You’ve been cool with each other since high school! No need to separate yourself from the crowd. You’re having a good time!

You’re having a good time, but you’re really not. Because no one in the crew truly has what they desire in life. You all are leeching on each other for fear of not being accepted. It’s a comfort zone. Or maybe, again, you’re just comfortable with your “friends”.

Take a look at the people that you commune with the most. We’ve all heard this so many times before, and I will say it again… You are the sum of the people that you spend the most time with!

So if you’re going to have a breakout year, you may want to start having conversations with people who are outside of your “crew”, and people who are actually living the life you envision for yourself, and doing the things that you’ve been dreaming of.

Stay in Love, and Peace

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